Monday, 1 June 2015

Is picky a bad thing?

or more . . . can you be too picky?

Courtesy of We Heart It.

This topic is due to various thoughts I've been having (or worst having thrust at me) & so it's fair to say that I've been mulling it over (& over) & so figured I'd share & find out other peoples opinions on pickiness (or standards). 

The obvious clarifications - I am single, not dating & worst of all nearing 30. I think this age factor has a lot to do with why I am considered 'picky'.

I've also had to admit that, alas, I have a type. Not ideal it would seem, where many may think it makes things easier, in my town (small town may I add) it would appear to actually make things harder. Combine a type & a few 'not acceptable' & my relationship status that leads to the idea that people have that I am too picky. Perhaps I am, but in some regards I am just not sure it is a bad thing. Surely some things you should stick to when it comes to that potential 'someone' who you could spend your life with (be it a month, 6 months, a couple of years, or (the ideal I think we all have) the forever).

I did the frivolous nature of things when I was significantly younger & I think there comes a time in everyone's life where perhaps frivolous can be no more; or at least suppressed, on top of which, the reality is that I am a bit of a hopeless romantic (I grew up watching Disney - yep blaming Disney).

My issue is that I am just not sure that picky (or particular) is a bad thing, I do think everyone can be 'too picky' when it impacts everything, but I strongly believe that the essence of us should be kept safe for the special people that deserve to get through the armour. Is it really wrong to feel that common ground is important, or to want people who have similar hopes, dreams & life considerations, should I really accept poor manners because then maybe I won't be single? I'm just not sure.

I don't believe I have an insane & lengthly criteria list (the having a type; tall, dark, handsome, particular mannerisms aside) I just have things that are intrinsic to who I am as me & surely if I am to be with someone, in whatever capacity, for whatever length of time & there is the chance that they will end up in my bed with me, then having standards or similar is understandable? Hmmm . . . or perhaps that is my problem. I hope not.

So what is a no go for me? 
Age - I just think at nearly 30, I'm not okay with someone who is the same age as my youngest brother.
Manners - I'm sorry but 'please', 'thank you' & common courtesy is really important to me.
Kindness - in all forms, including for others & an ability to accept people no matter what (mental health, friends with differing opinions etc all exist in my life & as such I need someone who can deal with that).
No games - of any form, or people who are prepared to view me (& try to make me into a ) 'wham bam, thank you mam', one night stand individual. I'm not one of those, I'm not okay with it & I don't want someone who's one interest is my knickers!
Family orientated - my family are important to me, so it's important that someone values that also with their own family & are prepared to embrace the insanity of mine, that being said my 'family' also for me includes my dearest & most valued friends, so they matter here too.

Are those things really things that make me 'too picky'?
Is valuing aspects of your self & trying to see yourself as worth certain things a negative trait to have?
Do you have things you cannot abide & things you so hope for in your significant other?

Should people toss things aside & become more reckless with their hearts & see a more haphazard, carefree, 'sod it' approach to relationships & dating or would that be dangerous?

Should I really embrace 'the kisses' even from 21 year olds because they are 'just kisses' (& burn 26 calories per 10 minutes) or should I be allowed to keep some of my 'dos & don'ts'?

Are you picky? Is it okay & more does it matter if someone is picky? 

Monday, 6 April 2015

It's all a little Raw.

I'm lucky enough to live in a lovely town that now has a vegan/vegetarian/raw cafe, Rawberry, which I am rather in love with & on top which, I currently work at part time (needs must) & the people are lovely, really lovely.

There are potted plants on the metal covered tables, the chairs are painted in either deep shades of burgundy with the others being bright (somewhat neon) green. There do a myriad of different wraps, snacks, cakes, soups, of course coffee, tea, juices, smoothies & . . . raw juices.

I am a big fan of raw & of juices, combine the two & you tend to get a rather happy me. So I have been slowly but surely introducing people to this world, sometimes successfully (my gorgeous friend Beet & Bobkins for instance) & not so successfully (my mother . . . wrap was a yes, raw ball was a no, juice . . . undecided & a friend who bulked at the raw vegan chocolate & was gutted by the lack of cheese & meat . . . there are neither) & indulge in these items myself a lot, then add the used organic coffee grounds, hello fantastic cellulite scrub & used wheatgrass products for face treatments & I am getting a big raw 'allover' moment, inside & out.

Favourite juices I'd massively recommend - 'Detox'; amazing! Beetroot, Spinach, Basil & Apple, 'Superskin'; so good (if slightly starchy/powdery in texture). Sweet Potato, Red Pepper & Orange juice. 'Little Gem'; beyond moreish, Cucumber, Spinach & Apple.

Wheatgerm - amazingly good for you (including for your skin on the outside & gums & blood cells on the inside), but a word to the wise, it is an acquired taste - initially it may well make you shudder (it is actually like drinking cut grass) but the after taste is sweet & I like it.

Added loves; they do an amazing charcoal & lemon juice shot, really good for digestion, bloating, breath, teeth, skin, hangovers . . . go for good on the activated charcoal (something I am a big fan of anyway for a natural teeth whitening aid), they also do amazing shots with ginger (bye bye colds & hello wake up!) & the raw balls . . . oh my days; Love is the bit of 'naughty' with cacao nibs, then there is a beauty ball (aided by avocado) & a brain ball with coconut & dates but oodles of other bits.

So here are a few snippets of my raw & Rawberry moments. 
Top Row: Used Wheatgrass ready to be made into a face treatment . . . roll on Wednesday evening for a slot of foot, face, henna indulgence, the time I made ma indulge in raw balls & a juice (she had the 'Brain' juice & I had a 'Detox' juice, the balls are raw 'love' balls - amazing), 'Brain' juice.
Middle Row: Time out for me, 'Little Gem' juice & doodling to brain empty, Lunch at work with a Mediterranean wrap & 'Little Gem' juice, there are always plants & flowers on the tables. 
Bottom Row: 'Detox' juice, 'All Day' juice & a long walk, the scrub process for cellulite scrub made with organic coffee. 

Add to this Deliciously Ella as a book, an app & a blog & other raw blogs & I am rather a happy possum. There is definitely a feel good factor about the world of raw & of juicing, add sunshine (hello vitamin D) & hula hooping, long walks or runs & I am all up for a slimline bikini okay summer.

So what's your viewpoint on the world of Raw, of juicing & of natural DIY products? Do you have any favourites?

Thursday, 5 March 2015

No jelly, ice cream or pass the parcel.

Courtesy of We Heart It. 

This might seem like an odd topic, but please bare with me, it's just my head is whirring & I found myself looking at & considering the ever nutty world of children & birthdays. 

About a week ago I had a poorly friend & her little dot was at a school friends party (my 'faux niece' - I'll quantify how one can have a faux niece. She knows me as 'Auntie Lucie' & I see her a lot (every week, sometimes several times a week) & do things with her as one would a real niece). 

Well due to poorly mummy I said I'd pick her up. 

Before I go any further the little dot in question has barely turned 5, making her classmates a range of 4 & 5 themselves. 

So I found out the details, supper at Zizzis!! I had to ask twice as it just seemed odd but alas that's exactly what is was. Her friends 5th birthday party was not a 5 year olds 'party' but a supper date in Zizzis. 

I go to the entrance, a hostess comes up to ask if they can help me & I find myself uttering "yes, I'm here for a 5 year old who's attending a dinner date" all whilst trying desperately to not roll my eyes or raise my eyebrows. Thankfully the host in question did those facial reactions on my behalf. 

I got directed to the table in question & there amongst families having dinner & couples on actual dinner dates I came across the table of prim & proper 4 & 5 year olds & guess what . . .

Not a balloon or bowl of jelly was in sight. 

I get my ever excited greeting (if having a bad day I strongly recommend a bit of child time) & find myself uttering what feels like a highly inappropriate selection of words "say thank you for having me" (who the hell should she really have thanked? The restaurant host? The server for the evening?) & "did you have fun & a lovely time?" (fun . . . hmm & when exactly would they have have been playing at this 'party'? How can a 5 year old have fun on a dinner date?)

As we left & started the journey to her home, the bit in me that screams 'kids should be kids dammit' somehow started skipping & hopping & generally being a little frivolous & uttering oodles of pointless nattering subjects because ultimately there was no jelly, ice cream or pass the parcel & that just didn't feel right in my brain. 

So if it's dinner dates to turn 5, what the hell happens at a 10th birthday? Opera? Champagne & Canapés? 

Something in that evening did not feel okay; I remain thankful that my 'faux niece' had a party complete with stuffed unicorn toy (naturally named 'Uni' - I imagine the girl who had a dinner date would prefer a 'real' animal not a mythical animal toy to name 'Sir Hamilton of Toyland' or something similar).

Is it just me that thinks kids grow up too quickly these days? Or finds it a little perturbing that dinner dates are now, for some, the approach for children birthdays. 

Wednesday, 18 February 2015

Hump Day; Loves & Loathes.

Courtesy of We Heart It.

Sometimes I'm grateful for the reminders that these hump day moments can be in remembering the ups not just the downs of every week & the moments that silly things tickle me & sometimes we need tickling don't we? 

Well tickle me pink:

* The start of Lent; I am one of those people that loves lent, a plethora of reasons really but it's something I do & do totally. This year is no different; there are numerous things I am giving up but I'm not going to list all of them but the general summery I give to ma is 'if it comes out of a packet I don't want it' & do 40 Acts, which is less about giving up & more about being grateful & at times generous. 
* Letter sessions; sometimes you just have to write letters. I have always been a chronic fan of snail mail, writing it & when lucky enough receiving it. I think this is a lot to do with my upbringing; thank you letters, pen pals, older relatives, friends in hospitals meant that letters became a constant & lately through to stress or similar it has gone a little by the wayside, but finally back into the flow, slowly but surely. 
* 'Girls' night moments; the reason 'girls' is written like that is because this Monday it consisted of me, my ma & a friend of ours who is 61, so really it's not your typical girls night, but it involved wine, grapes, cheese, crackers & a good natter, gossip, giggle & similar & was done just before she jetted off for a bit of sun & a wedding in Jamaica. Lucky lady. 
* The Great British Bake Off & Call The Midwife; I am not a big tv fiend or fanatic, never have been & probably never will be, but there are times when programmes appear that for that series or season I am hooked on. For instance 'Stalker' (yes a little part of me is still gutted by the series break, what is that??) but for right now it's The Great British Bake Off (for Comic Relief) & Call The Midwife; combine these two programmes with the letter writing & I fear I am secretly a 74 year old lady. But I am completely hooked by both. 
* Baby/children playdates; for those that don't know me, I am excessively lucky & broody & have been for years. I adore babies & children & at the moment whilst a bun in an oven is not about to occur I have taken to attempting to squish whatever notifications my ovaries are launching at my brain by indulging in playdates with other peoples children & babies. Also they are the best excuse for disney films, messy play, make belief & usually a fantastic provider of giggles. I strongly advise people have playdate indulgences whenever possible. 
* Fantastically indulgent hot showers; one of life's luxuries, in my mind at least. After a long stress day, or a day I get rained on, excessively cold, or just want a moment for myself, to clear my head, or given myself a bit of a pampering session (if shower is followed by tweezers, moisturised, foot moisture socks, face masks etc) then a really hot shower is very much my go to. There is something fantastic about being under a big whoosh of hot water, surrounded by steam & smelling products of your choice. I love these & may always love them. 

Oh bothersome being:

* Downpours with a rather lacking umbrella; this has happened to me a few times in the last week, I regularly question the design of some brollies, or more wonder whether people actually acknowledge that rain & wind regularly occur together & have the 'jobs' of brolly battles is actually not all that joyful, as you power walk to work bending a regularly unbending brolly the right way to attempt to do its jobs whilst a plethora of cars splash you & you internally wonder why you bothered doing your hair, getting dressed or putting make up on at all. 
* Unruly skin; letter to my skin . . . 'dear skin, seriously?!?! What is going on with you right now? I've been drinking more water & yes with lemon juice, I was even kind enough to face mask you & so please tell me what exactly your idea is at the moment, because it is not conducive to happiness from the skin owner, your owner, namely me!'
* No pancakes on pancake day; It sort of feels like somehow I missed out on a key element of the year, Christmas time holds mulled wine, ice skating & baileys hot chocolates, summer has pub gardens, henna, tan lines & anklets, pancake day requires well . . pancakes & this year due to insane busy elements to the day followed by utter exhaustion meant that this girl did not have pancakes. It sort of feels wrong. 
* Cars that splash you; Grrrr that is all that can be said on the matter, although at the time what comes out of my mouth as never ever that polite. 
* Running out of almond milk prior to that first cup of coffee; if people have ever met me prior to coffee I am not always the happiest or most coherent person in the world, now I do love hot black coffee at times, but the first coffee of the day for the benefit of my stomach lining has to include milk, so when your tired brain doesn't acknowledge you are out of milk & should therefor a) either make some or b) dash rapidly to the nearest shop to buy some it tends to slightly tarnish my coffee enjoyment in the morning. As a first cup requires sitting down, a little indulgence, no interruptions, just comfy luxury quiet bliss, which one cannot do when you have to put it off until you grab a takeaway on the way to work when ultimately the sitting down ritual is no longer an option. 

So there we are my loves & irritations for the past week & now woo it's downhill to the weekend!

Sunday, 15 February 2015

Fitness, health & ageing considerations.

Who doesn't feel upbeat about running when you get to wear awesome running leggings & rather pow trainers?!

So at the end of the year I turn 30 (disclaimer, I imagine you will 'hear' that sentence a lot in the next 9 months . . . shit how is it only 9 months away?) & with 30 the reality is that you are not 16 anymore, life or more your body, fitness & similar will not treat you as kindly & 30 is a big age, how you feel, what you look like & more matters & habits you get into matter more.

This is something my brain has been whirring over for a long time, at a rapidly increasing pace & so I thought I'd launch it here.

For various reasons I am not as healthy as I should be, nor as fit as I would like to be & so those are areas I know are in dire need of a little TLC & tweaking moment, granted I did do dry January which I like to think benefited me & as such have this 'fantastic' idea to aim to do a tee total 'dry' month on consecutive months (however if there is a wedding, a big birthday, or something I may allow a glass of champagne or wine in that instance), but I think it's more then just abstaining from alcohol when it comes to looking after yourself & attempting to keep on top of the world of ageing & all it may entail, so with that in mind I have looked at areas that need improving (greatly in some areas) over the next nine months & onwards to make myself feel better about ageing & about how I treat myself, my body & health, sometimes life needs an overall & there is nothing like a scary birthday to do it to you.

1. Fitness: this is in dire, dire need of a tweak, of TLC & of maintaining. I do walk everywhere (yes I am a 29 year old that as of yet has not learnt to drive; although intend to by 30), which helps I am aware of that & do love a good hula hooping moment but where I used to have really rather good fitness; I used to play hockey, run daily, do endless sit ups, swim several times a week, skip, hula hoop & similar, for various reasons that got squished. Namely because it got a little out of control & was very much wrapped up in the world of disordered eating (that is a story for a different time), but I miss running, I miss what endless exercise did to my body, I miss being fantastically toned & I intend to have that back. It is also a fantastic way of clearing ones mind & whenever I do re-don my running gear I always feel so much better for it. So let's throw myself back into fitness & hope for the best; the best in this case being that I feel good, lose wobble but can keep in control of it.

Courtesy of We Heart It.

2. Skincare: I used to have really good skin, it was one of the things I rather liked about myself, very rarely did I suffer outbreaks, my pores were relatively good, I had upbeat, happy, good skin. Alas smoking too much, not being as careful as I had been, being recently utterly shocking with my water intake & regimes has meant to skin not being as it once was & I want it back; so oodles of water, lots of regimes returning & a bit more indulgence in the world of natural masks & skin treatments & care.

3. Water: I used to drink ludicrous amounts of water, I loved it. Lately with tiredness, work stress & being cold a lot, my water intake has taken a bit of a backseat & has been replaced by even more caffeine & coffee related indulgences. So upping the water once more & with fantastic infusions recipes that you can get & make there really is no excuse & to be fair, green tea, fruit tea, peppermint tea, hot water with lemon juice also really helps incase the water tally chart.

Courtesy of We Heart It. 

4. Smoking: it finally has to actually go, Lent is heading our way rapidly - next Wednesday in fact, & I have a plethora of aims for lent one of which is to finally get rid of my rather unattractive & fairly atrocious for skin & health & fitness habits, that of the pull of nicotine. So let's cross the crossable & bring out the stubbornness that exists within & say goodbye to the tar sticks & wrinkle creators.

5. Mental Wellbeing; this is important! Really important! So between my therapist & her side of things, its important I start doing more of the things I love (like this, like art, like creating, like fashion, let friends, like walking) & get something out of, as well as slowly but surely work towards the things that I want most in life, from careers, to qualifications, to jobs that give me a purpose & boost happiness, financial stability & motivation. Sometimes maybe you have to let yourself dance in the rain, kiss strangers because there is a bit of 'pow' between you, write letters to boost yourself & the receivers, jump in puddles, have playdates with babies & children. If you can't indulge your inner pleasures, you can't smile at times & mean it & seek out the high bringers, your mental happiness crumbles more quickly & a frown will always age you quicker then a smile.

Courtesy of We Heart It.

6. Food; hmmm this is a tricky one & one I have to at times monitor & be very careful with, but what goes in your mouth massively impacts your outside; shape, weight, glowing skin, happiness, energy levels, well being & yes with it . . . how you age. It's one of the reasons I am always baffled by people that don't like vegetables or fruit, or would rather grab a burger then steam veg or chop some salad, I don't eat meat & am a strong believer in avoiding as much dairy as possible, living as close to a vegan existence as I can, without losing all control & going from being cautious, careful & healthy to a chronically controlled disorder. If you are lacking inspiration, pinterest is a great source, as is Deliciously Ella.

So there it is, some of the considerations I must take heed of & enforce a lot because hell this girl turns 30 at the end of the year & no other areas I can't control in the same way (proper relationship/longterm/marriage with a baby/bump by 30 is hardly about to magically occur now) but these I can. So if you can . . . then do.

Friday, 13 February 2015

Footwear Wish List.

Courtesy of We Heart It.

Who doesn't love a lusting moment? This time I thought I'd have a little footwear based indulgence session on this particular Friday (granted as a singleton I am sure I could create a 'what Id' love for Valentines list, but hmmm not about to happen) although I am not about to find the pennies in my back pocket for a gorgeous pair from YSL but that a side a girl can lust after more affordable shoes. So that is what I am doing & I intend to enjoy doing so, with picking two different places (if I pick more then two we'd be here for a very long time). ASOS & Free People

First up, ASOS:

ASOS Shuffle Flatforms; £25, Report Signature Allon Velvet Lace Up Heeled Ankle Boots; £66, ASOS LAKE Two Part Ballerinas; £22.
KG Kurt Geiger Harriet Black Glitter Cut Out Shoe Boots; £72, Supertrash Amber Leather Cut Out Shoes; £155, ASOS JUDE Woven Lace Up Leather Shoes; £25.
ASOS STRATFORD Pointed Heels; £35, ASOS MINUTE TIMER Suede Moccasin Shoes; £30, ASOS JUXTA Pointed Espadrilles; £15.
ASOS ENTICING Laser Boots; £48, ASOS EMPIRE Chelsea Ankle Boots; £42, ASOS RAGAN Two Part Ankle Boots £45.
ASOS JUXTA Pointed Espadrilles (Stripe); £15, ASOS AMONGST US Fringe Suede Booties; £38. 

and to end Free People:

Peaks Point Wedge; £118, Handmade Ballet Slipper; £128, Hey Juliet Flat; £128.
Hopewell Mocassin; £88, Aurora Espadrille; £138, Freeway Espadrille; £68, Moroccan Slip On Sandal; £42.
Rae Sandal; £248, Up All Night Wedge Boot; £100 (both colours), Neverland Chelsea Boot; £550.
Lost Valley Ankle Boot; £148, Cabal Wedge Boot; £174, Devant Leather Ballet Slipper; £48.

So there we have some of the footwear I have chronic lust for at the moment. What are your feet craving at the moment?

Wednesday, 11 February 2015

Hump Day; Loves & Loathes.

Courtesy of We Heart It.

Another week, another hump day, another mixed bag of highs & lows, small joys & great irritations. So of course it stands to reason I'll note it down & share it. Why wouldn't I?


* Having a Willcox for the weekend; this will always come high on my list. She is one of my dearest friends, vital to my day to day existence, one of those friends who I can go months without speaking to or seeing but nothing is different when we then finally get each other time again. One of a kind & just fantastic. So having a few drinks with her, my housemate & some of our friends & then coffee & breakfast/brunch on a sunny Sunday was just fantastic. Can't be beaten, especially when at lovely Cafe Monde. 
* A Friday evening 'playdate' with a scrumptious 4 year old; if you want the best ending to a week & the best greeting I highly advise going to see a 4 year old. If you have one in your life, make the most of it, if not go & find one! I had had a crumby week, but arriving at her house to take her out for a play date & coffee & colouring, you'd think I was a combination of the tooth fairy, father christmas & more all wrapped into one. Best greeting imaginable & best booster to start a weekend. 
* Long walks; I remain thankful about where I live, one of them is definitely that I have the opportunity to walk & walk & well walk for miles, sometimes in circles, always with mud, puddles, trees, greenery & cows. I need long walks in my life, a chance to plug spotify into my ears & toss aside any shoulder lowering weights that can exist & yes I must confess I have been known to jump in puddles & climb trees to read books in or sketch in.
* Getting an interview for a job I really want; this was a massively boosting moment in my week it has to be said, it was today in fact & I have never been quite so scared, excited & more all at once . . . the worst bit is that I have to wait, waiting games are a nightmare. 
* A nice G & T or a steaming hot coffee; both of these things can make me very happy depending upon the time of day & the mood that fits. Ending an evening with a G & T (or a pint) can be blissful when with friends I love, but mid day or even that first coffee of the morning, with a moment to myself & a chance to smell, inhale & just indulge in that caffeine laden goodness that can make the difference between an upbeat me & an anything but. 


* Frustrations & down days; there is nothing good at all about down days or slump moods or worse frustrations that you can do very little about; usually when they are related to other people & there you lack power. Definite way to be a bit of a day downer. 
* Counting down & waiting for pay day; does anyone enjoy this time in the month, when you are a little less then flush (if flush at all) & you find that you are a 29 year old who is willingly babysitting for that little bit extra to aid an end of the week G & T or similar, it also tends to put a large stop to shopping cravings & 'needs'. 

Friday, 6 February 2015

Planet Blue Wish List.

Another week, another coveting moment . . . & after the week I have had, coveting & a glass of gin makes a lot of things feel a little better.

This time let's dash off to Planet Blue (moments like this I cannot help but think in regards to my style preferences I live in the wrong country, as there does seem to be far more bohemian & less of the intensely body con abroad, alas it just means I may spend my life with a lot of shopping costs).


Eternal Sunshine Creations Denver Mini Dress; $175, Blue Life Rope Dress; $185, Ále by Alessandra Bias Beaded Dress; $158.
Indaah Cowl Neck Silk Cocktail Dress; $207, Blue Life V Neck Cape Cool; $115.
Free People Embroidered Dress; $168, Amuse Society Mia Dress; $56, Novella Royale Wild Love Maxi Dress; $207. 


The Fifth Label No Hope Top; $50, For Love & Lemons Midnight Cowgirl Crop Top; $75, Blue Life Kimono Sleeve Blouse; $115.
Ále by Alessandra Tassel Top; $132, Jens Pirate Booty Forever Cha Cha Tube Top; $145, Midnight Ryder Marfa Muscle Tee; $62. 


Hung On You Hoy Pull on Pant; $154, Gold Hawk Classic Lace Silk Short; $77, One Teaspoon Dixies Crop Jeans; $139, Amuse Society Crossroad Denim Short; $54.

Jumpers & Cardis:

BB Dakota Dakota Symona Sweater; $79, Goddis Hooded Wrap Sweater; $215, BB Dakota Tyree Hairy Knit Sweater; $84, Tigerlily Manchee Cardi; $242, BB Dakota Ranielle Split Back Sweater; $84.

There is also a ridiculous amount of jewellery, swimwear, undies & fitness wear that I would greatly covet, but if I start on that pathway too I will never stop & I have a gorgeous friend coming to see me from London tomorrow for the weekend so I cannot afford to put off the boring bits of life (tidying & sorting namely) that I have been putting off. 

But what would you get if money was not a concern from Planet Blue? Have you ever been to Planet Blue before? & if not this little corner of the world, what are you coveting this Friday?

Sunday, 1 February 2015

How do you curb a motivation funk?

Courtesy of We Heart It.

So this has been where I am lately, not in a swimming pod chair with layers of duvet-loveliness, but in a place of chronic motivation lacking. It's like by hitting the new year, a year that will end with me turning 30, bashed me hard around the head & just zapped away my motivation & zing.

That has been the reason for the lessening of entries here, for the reason that my plans for entries have gone by the way side, that OOTD posts have been utterly dismissed so far, that sitting for 5 minutes to plot, plan & consider has not occurred in the manner as it should do, alas even coffee cannot fix the strange funk I have been in.

It's not just here either that things have seemingly become drained of energy or motivation or the spark a person requires to do the myriad of things that makes up life & living, rather then existing. Its the end of a month & the beginning of another & for that I am grateful as I am hoping with everything that February will see the boost I need. Plus I can enjoy a G & T tonight after doing dry January! It's over so now I can enjoy the odd moment of indulgence, a cold drink after long days or whilst catching up with friends.

So I was wondering, how do you curb motivation funks? Do you have go to methods? A new year helps, it feels fresher & like maybe I can do things I haven't been or similar & try to ignore (or put less value in) the areas of stress that get me overwhelmed & flustered. Sometimes we have to motivate ourselves daily, so that may have to be how February is - a daily motivational pep talk to myself, coming up with ways of easing the funk is harder when you are in the funk but it has to be done so here are some of the things I am hoping will aid the funk removal;

* Stretch every morning when I wake up; that first stretch in bed is the best & I think ignoring it maybe doesn't fully erase sleep from your system, then morning yoga/yoga based stretching to hopefully boost me & ease the nasty back ache I am daily waking up with.

* Make sure I start & end the day with 5 minutes (or 20 minutes) just for me; zentangle, hot steaming coffee & a chance to clear/empty my mind as needed.

* Run at least every other day; exercise can be so boosting to endorphins, slimming, toning & make people feel mentally better, I need that it also will toss an extra slot of me time into my day; no work stresses, no to do lists, just running.

* I love to hoop; it's fun, it's toning (my stomach is not as it used to be, this needs improving & NOW) & I miss doing it daily, it's got to be done.

* Write down want I want to experience, to achieve, to do for every week on a Monday morning. I can cross them off as I go & get boosters that help my smiles & motivation & reassurance towards things. This is a big year, I end it by turning 30 & there are things I want to have achieved; having funks is not an option!

* In the same manner end Sunday nights writing down (screwing up & throwing away) everything that has stressed me out; worried me, upset me, gone awry during that week so that I said goodbye to it.

* Look after the things I used to be better at looking after maintaining; the small things can make a big difference. I used to be really good with my skin regimes (lacking at the moment), with nail care, with skin maintenance & with one thing or another they have dropped by the way side. My hands are not as soft & maintained as they used to be, I am enduring outbreak & outbreak of spots (something I didn't struggle with to this degree) & that's not how I used to be . . . they are little things I can do for myself & perhaps should do more.

* See & speak to the right people; phone calls, letters, staying in touch with & seeing the people I know love me no matter what, who I can have a giggle with even when things are dire (or seem overwhelmingly dire), difficult, overwhelming & a tad off kilter, even if it's just a coffee with them or a few quiet drinks at a favourite pub, the people in our lives are vital.

I am always open to fail safe ideas, so if you know any other ways of boosting & easing motivation funks or moments when everything gets a little too much, please do share them.

Here's to a new month!!

Friday, 30 January 2015

ASOS Wish List.

I have this theory, that the less money you have the more you lust, or at least that is what happens in my brain. I guess like when my mother is not dieting she wants bad food but doesn't have it running around her brain, then she says the word diet & all she can think of are Snickers Ice Creams (this is my point as she loathes both ice cream & snickers).

So with that in mind I am letting my 'financially dieting brain' dream of many an ice cream flavour!

Asos is my gelato seller of choice this time, this time looking at undies - I am a stickler for matching undies, they feel important to me, jewellery & shoes;

Undies & pjs:

Dark Rose Brazilian; £8, Jack Wills Gladwith Fairisle; £39.50, Halter Chiffon & Lace Playsuit; £25, Oysho Stripe Lounge Bottom (£25.99) & Oysho Stripe Lounge Top (£25.99).
Rosa Lace Triangle Bra; £14. Rosa Lace Thong; £6, Wildfox Lover's Bouquet Soft Bra & Ruffle Short Set; £ 84, Dark Rose Triangle Bra; £18.
Lilac Flower Triangle Bra; £16, Lilac Flower Thong; £8, Star Chiffon Frill Tie Back Triangle Bra; £18, Star Chiffon Brazilian Brief; £8.
Mary-Kate Frill Edge Bra; £16, Mary-Kate Brazilian Brief; £8, Mary-Kate Apex Front Fastening Triangle Bra; £16, Mary-Kate Thong; £8. 


Ottoman Hands Stone & Hand of Fatima Bracelet; £42, Multi Row Festival Choker Necklace; £15, Long Charm Tusk Necklace; £8, Dreamcatcher Hand Harness; £8, Mystic Hoop Charm Earrings; £10, Fashionology Set of 4 Mini Hoop Earrings; £18, Orelia Open Feather Bangle Arm Cuff; £22, Leaf Swirl Through Earrings; £8.


Minkie Loafers; £28, Jude Woven Lace Up Leather Shoes; £25, Report Signature Allon Velvet Lace Up Heeled Ankle Boots; £66, Stratford Pointed Heels; £35, Shuffle Flatforms; £25, Harriet Black Glitter Cut Out Shoe Boots; £72, Make Ends Meet Suede Loafers; £22, Amber Lights Weave Leather Chelsea Boot; £45, Minute Timber Suede Moccasin Shoes; £30, Jamila Lazer Cut Two Part Sandals; £22, Soludos Original Barca Washed Mint Stripe Espadrille Flat Shoes; £39, Fenella Fringe Flat Leather Sandals; £35, Enticing Laser Boots; £48, Amongst Us Fringe Suede Booties; £38. 

So there we are some of the bits; undies, jewellery & shoes that I am craving & lusting over as of late. What would you lust over in these categories at ASOS at the moment?

Wednesday, 28 January 2015

Hump Day; Loves, Loathes & Lust.

Courtesy of We Heart It.

How is it already the end of January? This is alarming, massively so but to get to the ending of months must come the ending of weeks & with that comes hump days & if you are me, hump day round ups of the lusts & loathes. 


* Birthday frivolities: on 24th it was my step father's birthday & we got oodles of us together at different stages of the day for what was lovely & in his mind also. We started the morning at the crack of dawn (well for a Saturday) & heading off for a day's clay shooting, lots of fun despite the cold (lots & LOTS of layers, hand & foot warmers & coffee) & I managed to win myself £30 in a bet as to hitting a clay with my last 3 shots. Then as a family off we heading in the evening for dinner (3 courses) at The Hotel Du Vin, where he & my mother stayed for a night. He enjoyed his day & so di everyone else. 
Courtesy of We Heart It. 

* Zentangle: I am obsessed. It's something I love doing, at any given moment I'll find I have a pen in my hand, sketchbook, notebook or bit of paper somewhere & the doodling begins. I am a doodler, an endless, continuous doodler, but I love it & sometimes I really need it to keep my head a little more sane. 
This picture is one of my many zentangle moments.

* Pay Day: hardly one to get excited about, not at all, but it means I paid rent & bills this month so for that I will be thankful & hey my brother owes me £ after the clay shooting bet went in my favour. 

* The email telling me that Deliciously Ella's book is on it's way: in theory I will receive it tomorrow, I have the app on my phone, I read the blog, I preordered her book in October & I have been counting down to getting that email, so now I have it & blip, funk, less then perky days have suddenly been a little bit mended. 

* That first coffee of the morning: as silly as this may well sound, that first sip of the first cup of coffee of the morning is just divine. It's a slot of time just for me. No errands, no people, no work stuff, no nothing, just me, sitting cross legged indulging in a hot burst of something that nobody can take away & that feels important since after that coffee is finished I never have a coffee moment that is just for me. 
Courtesy of We Heart It.


* Job Hunting: such a tedious process, a complete drag & something I wish I didn't have to do as I do technically love my job but alas I must; although I have applied for a job that would be amazing & that I really want & would fit with the direction I want my qualifications to take me in. 

* Series breaks: so irritating! My housemate & I have become hooked, completely & utterly, on the slightly creepy series that is 'Scandal'. It's incredible & we are completely hooked, the story of the main characters is finally starting to unravel & then boom - a series break & I have no idea when it will be back on. That was my Monday night indulgence, alas it has been taken away from me. 

* Very VERY tight finances: this is why I am alas job hunting once more, I live in a fairly expensive place & at the moment due to one thing or another it is not proving to be even vaguely financial viable, yes I got & was able to pay rent & bills, but that is pretty much as far as it will go, I am living on a bit of a shoestring until I get a new job. OUCH is the best way of putting it. 

* Not being in a perky place: I must say I will be glad when this month ends in the hope a perkier place will arise in my brain for February. It's not nice feeling so out of sorts, I think stress & more has been gradually building & getting to me over & over again. 

So there we are some of the bits of the last week in a loves & loathes scenerio. What would be on your hump day round off?

Friday, 23 January 2015

H & M Wish List.

So sometimes when you are feeling rubbish you need a pick me up & sometimes the pick me ups that are needed are a little lust moment here & there, safer if your purse is in one room & you & your laptop are in a different room, even better on a different floor.

So without further ado let's head on over to H & M & lust together, here are the selection of things I have been lusting over lately.


Lace Blouse; £19.99, Wide sweatshirt; £12.99, T-Shirt Dress; £14.99, Airy Blouse; £14.99, Lyocell Shirt; £24.99, Straight Shirt; £14.99, Long-sleeved Blouse; £12.99, Frilled Blouse; £12.99


Trousers Loose Fit; £14.99, Trousers in Imitation Leather; £14.99, Jersey Leggings; £7.99, Leggings with a Print; £14.99, Sequinned Trousers (Silver); £29.99, Sequinned Trousers (Gold); £29.99, Lyocell Shorts; £19.99, Jacquard-Weave Shorts; £19.99.


Wide Jumper; £14.99, Knitted Cardigan; £12.99, Long Cardigan; £29.99, Waistcoat with a Hood; £12.99, Rib-Knit Jumper; £29.99, Long Cardigan; £29.99, V-Neck Jumper; £14.99, Pattern-Knit Jumper; £24.99.


Fine-Knit Dress; £19.99, Crêpe Shirt Dress; £24.99, Patterned Shirt Dress; £19.99, Knitted Dress; £39.99, Striped Shirt Dress; £29.99, Long Shirt; £24.99

So there is some of the things I have been lusting over lately & in H & M specifically, what have you been lusting over lately? 

Monday, 19 January 2015

Silly irritations of female life.

So after yet another moment where my day ends with me having to throw yet another pair of tights into the bin, laddered legs is one thing & I don't mind depending on my attire for that day, but when the ladders & holes are at your toes it is the most irritating experience ever, so it got me thinking about the things that are a little irritating about being female, about the silliness that can come with the insane female world of fashion, preening, even shower routines & yes at times sex - there are lots of categories & moments.

Quick & vital clarification though - I love fashion, I love being girlie & secretly perhaps I slightly love the silliness of preening routines; it's a constant in a regularly far from constant life. 

So what are some of these things?

* The world of hair removal: so let's be honest we all have to do it & not a little bit but all the damn time! The possibilities are numerous; waxing, sugaring, shaving, tweezing, lasers, using an epilator, threading. . .  you get the idea. The warmer the weather the faster the hair grows back which is a tad infuriating, then there are the ghastly risks of ingrown hairs, you have to make sure you have exfoliated & heaven help you don't pay concentration, you risk either cutting yourself with a razor or boiling yourself with hot wax. Showers would save more water if it was not for hair maintenance & let's be honest does anyone massively enjoy waxing sessions? It hurts, it really hurts & often bikini waxes will leave to a selection of bleeding moments.

* Laddering tights: stands to reason that this would have to feature after throwing away yet another pair before I sat down to this. You have three choices with the world of tights; always carry a spare pair in your bag (good in theory not always remembered in practise) or just hope you don't get ladders or accept them as a part of your life, potentially a fairly regular
part. Some shoes create endless toe holes, some clothes or bags or even public furniture create snags or you are in a rush & pull them up & on a little too fast, even more likely is this to happen when you think you are buying a certain type of denier & actually that shop in question is telling fibs & their denier is a hole lot lower.

* Blisters: you have on an amazing pair of shoes, potentially a new pair or a pair you weirdly haven't worn in a while so you put them on & very quickly it begins the excruciating pain that is the beginnings of blisters. You will between the ages of 13 & further go through an utterly ludicrous number of plasters; fabric, clear, bright blue, blister plasters, every variety. You will also end up with feet that are slowly but surely changing shape or have scars from blisters & all in the name of shoes that look incredible.

* Smears: got to be done & I mean GOT TO BE DONE they are really important, but up until that first letter drops on to your doormat you live in harmonious bliss of the ignorant variety. Then you get it & you make the appointment & from that moment on every 3 years you have to make the appointments & trek your way off to lie on your back, legs in stirrups, butt naked from the waist down, whilst a nurse shines basically a floodlight at your foof & scraps away in circles with a magic scraping brush to the count of 4 & if you are me, or like me, you stare at the ceiling whilst making atrocious small talk to try to make the reality not the reality. Also is it just me or do you end up 'prepping & preening' prior to these appointments, wearing the good knickers & making sure your are 'maintained' & tidy?

* Lipstick on teeth: how can you check, recheck & all is fine then smile & have a friend or worse a stranger tell you that you have lipstick on your teeth? It's a strange mystery of life & one that is just irritating, yet let's be honest would we ever give up the lipsticks we love to prevent the risk of teeth smudge?

* Kirby grips/bobbie pins: we buy them, we lose them, we buy them again, we lose them again, we use them to a ridiculous level - they are crucial to daily life & to helping bad hair days or guaranteeing good hair days remain so. Yet they end up in the hoover, the washing machine, making holes in clothes, bottom of bags, getting lost left, right & centre. So we buy more, then when we are tidying we find that the thousands that we have lost have been multiplying into greater thousands & are just everywhere!

So there we are, there are some of the bug bares & silly irritations that come with female daily life, others could obviously include; the fear of queefing, foot maintenance - rough, split heels are not ideal, hormone induced spots (as if hormones won't bad enough we also get skin of doom), the constant risk of VPL - when was the last time guys had to pick underwear carefully for their chosen outfit? Pelvic floor exerices; oh how lovely & if you don't do them can you imagine at what point a cough will become a leak?

What would you add to your list?

Pictures courtesy of we heart it. 

Friday, 16 January 2015

Rat & Boa & Sabo Skirt Wish List.

So another Friday & a little more lust . . . it happens & I like to think there is no harm in it, although starting to find that online lusting can make for an unhappy being when you make the error of looking at a bank balance, or looking at things that just make you long for flirty beach days or picnics in parks, or pub garden evenings all of which require one key thing . . . sunshine! I am already massively lusting for summer & all that it brings with it. But that aside it's a Friday & time for coveting! This time at 2 new places to my horizons; new but ones I know I will end up buying from . . . at least once.

First off, it's Rat & Boa, I love the items on this site, granted the ladies are teeny tiny in size, but that asides I love the styling of the models & outfits & of the clothes themselves, so here are some of my lust areas; once my stomach & more are as they should be.

Aurora Twin Set; £42, Wanderer Crop; £28, White Tie Dye Shirt Dress; £28, 'Simple-T' Black Chiffon Twin Set; £42 & Heartbreaker Crop Top; £28.

White Willow Slit Maxi Dress; £38, White Off The Shoulder Crochet Dress; £36, Cobalt Blue Dress; £30, Navy Mirage Dress; £38 & Cobain Hoodie; £40.

Do you know of Rat & Boa? What would be on your wish list from their little corner of the internet?

Next up, it's Sabo Skirt . . . this place makes massive summer longings, & tousled unkempt hair. It's nearly February, surely summer can spring up on us with great rapidity?

Boyfriend Jeans - Black; £33.68, Seashell Shorts; £20.64, Atlantis Shorts; £26.07 & Grey Charmed Skirt; £28.25.

Stretch Pants; £22.81, Carlisle Crop; £26.07, Black Knit Top; £22.81 & Tie Dye Top; £17.38.

Wave Crop Top; £22.81, Prophecy Top; £22.81, Mia Top; £20.64 & Maiden Tie Dye Playsuit; £26.07.

Zephyr Playsuit; £31.51, Sanctuary Maxi Dress; £28.25, Vanity Shirt Dress; £31.51, Avery Overlay Maxi; £42.37 & Goddess Macrame Maxi; £36.94

Do you know Sabo Skirt? What would be on your wish list?

So that's my Friday lust session, now to tidy, iron & sort what I already own in the hope it curves lust cravings from becoming reality all too quickly. 

Happy lusting!